You work hard. You chose this. But you’re TIRED.
You have sacrificed a lot of time and energy to train yourself to help people, to make a positive impact in the world.
And you do… but now you seem to spend all your time working. And when you are not working? You’re catching up frantically with the rest of your life – partner, kids, chores, extended family, logistics, etc
You are usually the reliable one, the strong one everyone goes to when they need help.
But you find when you need help, you have no one to talk to…. not at your level…
— you don’t mean that in a bragging way. It’s just that you have attained a level of achievement that many aspire to but few know of the unique challenges that accompany your path, behind the scenes.
Everyone is used to being helped by you, so when you ask for help…they feel ill-equipped. Or just weird..
You want to do the inner work that you KNOW needs to happen. You’ve already started down the path of learning how to create boundaries, how to prioritize self-care in a realistic way, emotional resilience, harmonizing work life and personal life. But you know there’s more to do.
And for once, you wish you could be doing it alongside other people.
You try to make friends. But it’s hard! Shallow talk bores you but you find you have nothing to talk about with the people around you beyond that. Or when people find out what you do for a living, they are intimidated. So you shrink yourself.
You have spent so much time on your professional journey, you haven’t had the bandwidth to develop friendships and mentorships to support you.
You are surrounded by people but you feel lonely.
You pick up the phone but you don’t know whom to call.
The friends you have are great but their values are not really aligned with yours. They’re not doing their inner work and don’t really get what you’re talking about when you describe the life you want…
You are going through difficult times and you realize no one really has your back.
Or maybe you are accomplishing great things but you can’t really celebrate or share because you don’t want to outshine those around you. So you dim your light.
Or maybe you have big goals and dreams and really want support in creating the life you want.
But when you try and share them with the people in your life, they either always say what they think you want to hear…
…or are so judgmental and critical, picking apart everything you do that you feel unsafe about sharing your truth about your desires and struggles.
What if it was different?
What would it feel like to have an intimate community of mission-driven, empathetic, heart-centered humans like you who are committed to walking alongside you and each other?
What would it feel like to be able to let your hair out, show up fully, authentically, imperfectly and in all your brilliance and be met with love, empathy, non-judgment, resonance and belonging?
What would it feel like to be supported with a plan, equipped with skills and held accountable as you do your work toward creating the life you want without having to dim your light or shrink your dreams?
What would it feel like to just be? To know you belong, are accepted, valued and loved, without having to perform, earn or hustle for worthiness?
What would it feel like to have the time, space and safety and access to cultivate the resources, tools and skills to create the life you want?
What would it feel like to have a place where you are celebrated for your wins and encouraged and supported during your losses?
What would it feel like to have people who tell you the truth in a loving, non-judgmental yet direct way?
What would it feel like being able to confidently show up in all arenas of your life and use your voice knowing that you have a community that has your back?
It would feel like being in the Thriving Idealist Mastermind Experience (TIME)!
It’s about TIME you had the support you give to everyone and develop the skills to design the life you want to live!
The Thriving idealist Mastermind experience is a 6 month group coaching experience. It includes seminars and workshops on skills for thriving personally and professionally as you make your positive impact in the world — without succumbing to overwhelm, overwork, disillusionment, compassion fatigue or burnout.
This will be an intimate group of 10-12 mission-driven, heart-centered humans. You will walk alongside one another, learning shared language and doing your work for 6 months.
We will begin with a virtual retreat on Feb 4th, 8am-12pm Pacific. Over the 4 hours, we’ll have sessions on things like Reviewing 2022, Clarifying Priorities, Goals and Dreams for 2023, Designing the life you want and of course getting to know one another!
During our 6 months together, There will be Group coaching and teaching of all the topics I coach in personal, leadership and organizational development doing the work from the methodologies I am certified in: Positive Psychology, Daring Way, Rising Strong, Dare to Lead, Sparketype Advising, Unbeatable Mind coaching(mental toughness and emotional resilience), Heroic Optimize Coaching (I know, I know… #nerdlife)
We will explore and practice positive psychology tools, breath work, visualizations and meditations, plus experiential work (finding joy at work, self trust, boundaries, values, strengths, permissions, rising strong from failure, having hard conversations, giving engaged feedback, showing up in the arena, taking off the armor, cultivating square squads and meaningful connections, life design, future me embodiment, plus restorative, restful and rejuvenative practices etc together.
If you have attended my Respite Sessions or workshops you have an idea of what I am describing.
Ready to give yourself the gift of TIME now? Click here to secure your spot. or Pay What You Choose.
Want to chat about it first? I’d love to! Click here to book a free, no obligation 20 minute call with me.
When you sign up, you make a PACT with yourself. You PLEDGE to ACT: To ALIGN, CONNECT and TRAIN. You will have access to the Thriving Idealist Cultivating Academy library. You go at your own pace and you don’t have to do them all. I will cover the fundamentals during our sessions.
ALIGN: 6 MODULES:
MODULE 1 – SELF-DEVOTION: PERMISSIONS and COMMITMENTS including self-compassion, empathy, authenticity and permission slips.
This will help you lay the foundation of commitment to yourself. You will design the life you want from a strong foundation.
MODULE 2 – Rumbling with Vulnerability – Taking Off the Armor, Cultivating Shame Resilience and Grounded Confidence.
This is The foundational skill for courageous living, loving and leadership.
MODULE 3 – DESIGNING THE LIFE YOU WANT – Future Me exercises, Obituary, Mission, Purpose, Dreams.
This makes sure you’re moving on track to get to where you ACTUALLY want to be, not where everyone (or society) says you should be.
MODULE 4 – PRIORITIES
This is similar, but is going to help you focus your days NOW in the right places, so you get more done in less time (and actually enjoy the process!)
MODULE 5 – VALUES
If you’ve worked with me before, you’ll know that burnout occurs when you’re out of alignment with your values. This will help keep you on track to stay away from burnout (or pull you out of it if you’re already close) with actions to embody your values.
MODULE 6 – STRENGTHS
We’ll get clear on what they are and how they empower you so you can build your life sustainably.
MODULE 7 – ALIGNMENT INTEGRATION – Boundaries, Living BIG & Embodiment, Values X Strengths Integration and operationalization
This is where it all comes together to make it work for YOU!
2. CONNECT – 6 MODULES
MODULE 7 – SELF -CONNECTION – Reconnecting to yourself in a deeper way. Remembering who you are, what makes you you and what brings you joy
MODULE 8 – EMPATHY – Empathy, Empathy Misses, Hard Conversations and Engaged Feedback
MODULE 9 – SELF-TRUST – Learning to trust yourself and becoming your own strongest ally, learn how to be a safe space for yourself with non-judgment
MODULE 10 – TRUST RELATIONSHIPS AT WORK AND HOME
MODULE 11- BUILDING SQUARE SQUADS and COMMUNITY
MODULE 12 – CONNECTION INTEGRATION – Communities Of Practice
3. TRAIN – 6 MODULES
MODULE 13 – DEVELOPING THE 5 ARENAS OF AN INTEGRATED LIFE – Physical, Mental, Emotional, Spiritual & Intuition
MODULE 14 – CREATING CONSISTENT SUSTAINABLE ALIGNED HABITS USING THE DISCIPLINES OF THE WARRIOR
MODULE 15- CREATIING PRACTICES FOR MORNING RITUALS
MODULE 16 – CREATING PRACTICES FOR NIGHT TIME RITUALS
MODULE 17 – PRACTICES FOR DEVELOPING EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE
MODULE 18 – THE BIG 4 OF MENTAL TOUGHNESS
BONUS MODULES:
MODULE 19 : RISING STRONG FROM FAILURE
MODULE 20: CULTIVATING PRACTICE as a WAY OF LIFE – Perfectionism, Consistency, Process, and Integration.
The mastermind will be no more than 10-12 humans broken into smaller huddles of3- 4 integrity partners and paired into 2 empathic buddies.
The first 10 to sign up between now and December 30th, will receive 6 free one on one coaching sessions with me worth $3000. You can begin using your coaching sessions as soon as you sign up!
Ready to be one of those ten? Click here to secure your spot. or Pay What You Choose.
Want to chat about it first? I’d love to! Click here to book a free, no obligation 20 minute call with me.
All participants will have Access to all teaching videos, coaching videos and all the recordings from all the previous respite sessions.
You will also receive access the Values workshop
We will meet for 2 hour sessions every two weeks for 6 months, on alternate Tuesdays at 5pm PT
The investment for TIME is $6000.
Remember: if you’re one of the first 10 to sign up, If you sign up NOW, or Pay What You Choose. you can use some or all of your coaching sessions for support if you struggle during the holidays and need a safe, nonjudgmental, supportive space.
I know my square squad has saved mine again and again by helping me remember who I am in the face of the lies of shame, disappointment, loneliness and failure, to celebrate my wins and just show up as myself as I continue to do my inner work!
Are you ready to finally have the support you need to build the tools you know can change your life? Secure your spot HERE or Pay What You Choose.
No Refunds. Payment can be transferred to another program, workshop or coaching package of equal value. Payment plans are available.
I know it’s hard right now. There is a way through. You can find respite and hope even in what’s going on with you.
As always, if you are struggling or know someone mission driven and heart-centered who has sacrificed a lot to make a difference and is struggling, or just want support on your journey, or to help you transition to the next level of your journey reply to this email.
You are not alone.
Do not go through this season without support if you need it.
You Matter. I see you, I love you and you belong. I am glad you are here.
Sending you love, peace and strength and looong hugs,
Yvonne Ator, MD, MPH
Certified Personal And Executive Coach for mission-driven and heart-centered professionals
Certified Dare To Lead Facilitator
Certified Daring Way Facilitator
“When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.”― Fred Rogers
Fondly called “The Helper For Helpers and Sheepdog for Sheepdogs”, Dr. Yvonne Ator is deeply passionate about serving those who serve and lead.
As the Founder of Thriving Physicians and Thriving Idealist, she has spent the past several years coaching mission-driven Physicians and other helping professionals who desire to serve and lead sustainably and thrive in their personal and professional lives while making their positive impact in the world without succumbing to disillusionment, moral injury, compassion fatigue or burnout. As a sheepdog for sheepdogs, she equips helpers and leaders struggling with overwhelm, overwork or feeling stuck with tools and resources to master themselves so they can live authentically and serve to their fullest potential. Yvonne is also passionate about creating daring leadership and courage cultures in the workplace.
An immigrant born in England, raised in several states in Nigeria and the United States, Yvonne was the quintessential multipassionate idealist who wanted to change the world through medical missions and music. However, after finding herself at a crossroads, overwhelmed and compassion-fatigued as a new mom having to choose between her mental health and burnout in the medical profession she had sacrificed everything for, Yvonne became an avid advocate for physician wellness, courageous service and leadership, suicide prevention and a more wholehearted culture in the workplace.
After losing her comatose dad during a physician strike and finding herself homeless, divorced and financially destitute, Yvonne realized the pitfalls of burnout and quitting medicine without a safety net. She now empowers helping professionals to step back from the tunnel of overwhelm and burnout, rediscover their values and strengths with a new lens and mindset to see the options before them and make more aligned and empowered decisions.
In addition to a doctorate of Medicine from the Brody School of Medicine and a Master of Public Health from Johns Hopkins University, she has attained several certifications in resilience, wellness, personal, leadership and organizational development. She is a certified Personal and Executive Coach in positive psychology, Certified Daring Way Facilitator, Certified Dare to Lead Facilitator (Brene Brown’s work) and a certified Unbeatable Mind Coach (Integrated Training in Mental Toughness and Emotional resilience with Retired Navy SEAL Commander Mark Divine!).
A physician, musician, coach, writer, author, speaker, advocate and serial-quester, Yvonne is tireless in her mission to empower, equip and inspire those who have sacrificed to serve. She co-created the Veterans Integrated Program with the Courage Foundation to help veterans with post-traumatic stress cultivate the tools and practices to thrive. She has served schools, non-profit organizations, hospital teams and mixed professional groups as a sought-out keynote speaker, executive coach and workshop facilitator on leadership, resilience, work culture and emotional development topics such as Daring Leadership, Rumbling with Vulnerability, Living Our Values and building TRUST, disciplines of the warriors and the big 4 of Mental toughness.
She has also spent the pandemic hosting Respite sessions for frontline workers to help with stress, overwhelm and burnout. She has internationally published several articles including laughter as medicine, caring for caregivers, mindfulness meditation, grief, crisis intervention, trauma resilience and cultivating values. She serves as a Founding Executive Board Member of the Mindful Healthcare collective. She is a co- author of the book “Thinking About Quitting Medicine?” and her story is featured in the bestselling personal development books “SPARKED” by Jonathan Fields and “I Quit!” by Coonoor Behal. She has also served as adjunct professor at the Cal State University San Marcos Master of Public health program.
When she isn’t being chased around by her two unbeatable warrior-princesses, she is either playing guitar in bands, meditating, latin dancing, wanderlusting, hosting free virtual Respite sessions for physicians and other Frontline workers during the Pandemic, doing burpees to support Courage Foundation’s mission to help veterans with Post-traumatic stress, dreaming up her next quest or geeking out on values, leadership, antifragility, emotional intelligence, Unbeatable Mind and Oprah!